Human basic need is to socialize, humans can not live alone. When we are still in school, whether you want it or not you have do this thing like group projects, team play or anything. But after you graduate, you don’t have to do this again and social circle will get smaller and smaller. It is okay for some people, but not for me.
used to live in a very crowded home (by come-and-go neighbors) and have to go to small city and live in a very quiet boarding house really stressed me out! I was freak out, homesick and cry most nights (because it was very quiet). Fortunately, my sister asked me to join in a Catholic Charismatic community called Seraphim Catholic Ministry (SCM). Like Catholics in common, it was new, unusual and bizzare. I was a little bit concerned, they use different songs than usual but it is interesting. Because most young Catholic in my city still unfamiliar with this lifestyle. Weekly churching is only an obligation, no meaning. Just come, sit, listen to preachers (if able to listen) and go home. Passive.
It is so wrong! What we do here is more than sit or listen. What we do are praise God together, learn what His words mean, and find what God really want to do with our life. Even though I am not really active but I can feel something different. I am calmer than I used to be, I am more confident, I take positive runaway when I have problems. sounds cliche right?
but I can guarantee that if you do it wholeheartedly, it will give positive comeback. There are many community like this. SCM is only one of it. In Malang, there are Komunitas Tritunggal Mahakudus (KTM) and HOPE (more?), and in Surabaya I know only HSM. Try it, it won’t hurt. It won’t be fun at first, but They will welcome you (plus, there are food (sometimes)) It’s not your choice to take a part, it’s His.